Relationship Issues

Relationships can make us very happy or very sad

Relationship troubles

  • Confused – not sure what you really want, grass is always greener, can’t find the right person;
  • Destructive Patterns – you see yourself doing the same thing again and again, like choosing the wrong person, sabotaging relationships, or provoking conflict;
  • Loneliness – feel that you don’t have any friends, lack the confidence to socialise, feeling let down by your friends, can’t be alone;
  • Break-Up – getting through a hard break-up, scared of being on your own, can’t understand what happened;
  • Conflict – family feuds, office conflict, non-stop lovers quarrels, anger and frustration;

Relationships and mental health

Relationships, whether with partners, family or friends, can be the best of experiences; but when they go wrong they can also be torture. The more important the relationship the worse the pain. Counselling can help you consider your relationship issues and get some clarity on how to change your situation for the better.

Each person has their own style of relating, with it’s weaknesses and strengths. We learn how to relate from the first people we ever meet – our parents. As a result our relationship problems often have deep roots, and old habits are hard to break.

Psychotherapy for relationship issues

Few things are more confusing than trying to figure out relationship issues, by yourself. Talking to a counsellor can give you a useful impartial perspective on the situation, and the help you need to improve things.

In counselling we’ll explore and try to understand your style of relating, the way you see yourself in your relationships, the things you wish you could change, the origins of your patterns and explore new ways of relating.

 

If you’re troubled by a problem in an important relationship, or are wondering why your relationships always seem to follow the same pattern, counselling can help you. Make an appointment to see me in my central London consulting room.

News about relationship issues

Just released: 75 Year Study On What Men Need To Live A Happy Life

Harvard has published an impressive 75 year longitudinal study: In 1938 Harvard University began following 268 male undergraduate students and kicked off the longest-running longitudinal studies of human development in history. The study’s goal was to determine as best as possible what factors contribute most strongly to human flourishing. The astonishing range of psychological, anthropological, […]

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5 warning signs depression is affecting your relationship – Salon

Salon has an article referencing a more detailed piece in Scientific American about the impact of depression on relationships. http://www.salon.com/2014/03/10/5_warning_signs_depression_is_affecting_your_relationship_partner/ Scientific American: If your relationship is struggling, depression may be the culprit. A resounding body of research has shown how closely depression is related to relationships in a cyclical fashion: depression affects the quality of […]

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The Sun: An article about the effectiveness of couples counselling, quoting examples from Relate.

The Sun has an article about the effectiveness of couples counselling in improving relationships, citing an example of a 28 year marriage gone stale that was revived with the help of counselling at Relate. http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/woman/3782135/Our-marriage-was-a-sham-for-28yrs.html

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Roger Scruton writes on the impact of Internet technologies on human relationships

As social networks, instant messaging, texting, tweeting and friending become ubiquitous some of us have a growing sense of discomfort: Yet already something new is entering the world of human relations with these innocent-seeming sites. There is a novel ease with which people can make contact with each other through the screen. No more need […]

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